“It’s okay if you hate me, I hate me too.”
I have spent more than 16 years researching the challenges faced by people living in high-risk communities in Cape Town, South Africa. Many individuals in these marginalized communities struggle with feelings of unworthiness, lack of appreciation, and self-hatred. It’s common for them to think, “I hate myself” and “I hate my own,” which hinders their ability to overcome the difficulties they face, especially in areas where socioeconomic issues significantly impact the lives of previously disadvantaged individuals in the Cape Flats and Townships.
The system in place often perpetuates stress and despair, particularly among people of color, leaving them feeling powerless. This leads to a reluctance to address negative social issues within their communities, as well as a tendency for at-risk young adults to wield fear as a weapon against each other. Self-hate is reinforced by media, in homes, schools, and on the streets, creating a false sense of worthlessness. As a result, individuals in these communities have not been taught how to effectively respond to their environment due to constantly having to survive in strict conditions.
Domestic violence and the pervasive message that “we are worth nothing” have a detrimental impact on the subconscious and conscious minds of individuals, shaping their perceptions of themselves. It is crucial for our people to recognize these forms of abuse and remove themselves from such situations to ensure their physical, mental, and social well-being. Unfortunately, many individuals give away their power too easily in these communities, which is exacerbated by the unresolved traumas, depression, and anxiety that continue to affect their lives.
In order to rise above the negative self-talk and internalized feelings of worthlessness, it’s essential to confront and overcome the force that holds us back – the little voice that tells us we are worth nothing. Refusing to be controlled by this internal negativity can empower individuals to protect their self-worth and value from authority figures such as fear, worry, and despair. Surrounding oneself with people who uplift and add value is crucial in the journey of realizing one’s power and worth.
